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Tom Metcalf's avatar

Not having seriously played sports in my own youth, one thing I hadn't realized at all with my 11th grader's baseball is how, at an age where he doesn't really want to hang around with his parents, and probably finds us embarrassing, that his baseball games are a shared experience in which he doesn't at all resent my presence, the way a typical teenager might resent his parents at, say, the mall or a movie or a community fair or some such. With the travel teams, and to a lesser extent the high school team (whose games are at less convenient times for working parents), It's more or less expected that at least one parent will usually be there for each player, and the players don't find it embarrassing even when the parents cheer for the team. We're there near the players but they're in the dugout, separate from us, and we all experience the same ups and downs of the game. I'm usually my son's team's scorekeeper; it's an added bonus when his teammates ask me what the score is, or when a pitcher asks his pitch count, hoping to convince the coach he can go another inning; they know who I am but not in a way my son finds cringeworthy.

I suppose we're lucky in that none of the other parents on any of his teams have been the overbearing sports-parent type. We're on the periphery of the super-serious-baseball world, and will occasionally in tournaments play teams that seem closer to the super-serious baseball world, but even then it's been rare to run into problematic parents or coaches.

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Todd Crane's avatar

The most salient criticism of youth sports brought up by Gladwell and others is the immense cost. Combine this fact with the admissions bump sports can give kids during college applications and the wtf of youth sports and college is clear even if we Americans consistently look past it. The issue is not limited to the traditionally elite sports like golf, tennis, and crew either. Soccer is about the cheapest youth sport imaginable, but even there the money and time needed to access the more competitive leagues and better coaching are significant (e.g. Simmons's experience with his daughter). Giving any sort of admission consideration for sports is damn dubious and it should be pointed out more frequently. If kids want to play sports they should play sports. But let's stop the practice of the coaches getting to send lists of applicants to the admissions office for further consideration.

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