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DinoNerd's avatar

My experience was that the social skills and other intangibles we were supposed to somehow miraculously learn in K12 were never taught. Those with talent learned them, and treated the rest of us contemptuously. They were not, of course, "dicks"; they were behaving properly, unlike their victims.

Academic matters were taught - badly, but at least they were taught. That was where my talents lay, so almost every class was far too easy for me, but at least no one presumed that the "good" and "normal" children could learn mathematics, or history, or whatever, just by being given a chance to use them. (Well, except for the Nuffield method in British schools, which destroyed science education for a generation - fortunately I was not exposed to it, but I know people who were.)

I eventually applied my intellect to "soft skills", learning how to redirect victimization onto someone even weaker than me, among other valuable "life skills". (I'm a bit ashamed of that, but this was the behaviour being modeled by everyone except perhaps the outright bullies. Of course that's not what they called it ...)

Actually, I learned far more than that, helped out by my habit of reading. Reading gave me ideas, including the idea of experimenting. An early set of experiments taught me how to get teachers to ignore me in class, letting me read in peace. (Trial and error taught me what behaviour they most hated; so I did that whenever they prevented me from reading.)

Eventually I became "good at" various "soft skills", such as writing effective resumes, passing job interviews, and similar. Also "looking like a good middle class citizen" to various authority figures likely to treat such people better than anyone who looked "different" or poor. Now I'm presumed to have been one of the "socially skilled" even in those days - people I'd call "bullies or their "hangers on", except to the extent I've chosen an eccentric self-presentation. ...

As you can doubtless tell, I'm still angry about my K12 days. I empathize with those poor kids at e.g. Columbine who couldn't stick it out until graduation, and instead opted for murder-suicide. Perhaps fortunately, by the time I reached the age at which they broke, I was already doing a pretty good job of manipulating the staff into allowing my escape from the worst of the school environment. (I'd also figured out how to handle myself in a punch-up, leading to a reputation that almost eliminated actual physical attacks on me.)

I'm glad I never had children. I simply could not have borne to obey the law by submitting any child I cared about to compulsory public "education".

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SocialImpurity's avatar

A very enjoyable read. Many things I agree with, but particularly re. the broad education and interests of those "genius figures", even Dirac, as I recall, for all his eccentricities. A narrow education is definitely not a better education.

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